Bernice Hoeffken

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Bernice M. “Bernie” Hoeffken, nee Grimmer, 94, of Belleville, IL, born April 11, 1929, died Monday, October 16, 2023, at Memorial Hospital East, Shiloh, IL.

Bernice was a loving wife, mother, and homemaker. Bernie’s family and home was her life, she enjoyed raising her children and making her house a beautiful home. She volunteered at St. Elizabeth’s Hospital and worked at the National Shrine of Our Lady of the Snows. Bernie loved boating at the Lake of the Ozarks and shopping. She loved shopping! Bernie loved her friends, and her grandchildren were the light of her life.

She was preceded in death by her loving husband of 65 years, Maurice E. Hoeffken, whom she married on September 8, 1951, and who died on December 7, 2016; a son, Edward M. Hoeffken; a granddaughter, Katie Hoeffken; her parents, William Henry and Elizabeth Josephine, nee Molitor, Grimmer; and six brothers, John, Bill, Ray, Morris, Norbert, and Cy.

She is survived by her two daughters, Jan (Tom) Shipley and Jody (Ray) Page; her daughter-in-law, Deb Lands; five grandchildren, E.J. Hoeffken, Marc Shipley, Matt (Ashley) Shipley, Bernadette (Doug) Kinder, and Gwen (Jake) Rodriguez; and four great-grandchildren, Chad Betlach, Cora Kinder, and Jett and Cal Rodriguez.

Memorials may be made to St. James Catholic Church, Millstadt, IL, or to St. Luke Catholic Church, Belleville, IL. Condolences may be expressed to the family online at

Visitation:  Friends may visit from 9:30 to 11 a.m. Saturday, October 28, 2023, at St. Luke Catholic Church, Belleville, IL.

Funeral:  A memorial mass will be at 11 a.m. Saturday, October 28, 2023, at St. Luke Catholic Church, Belleville, IL.

Burial will be held at Green Mount Catholic Cemetery.


6 Comments on Bernice Hoeffken

Margaret said : Guest Report Oct 29, 2023 at 5:03 PM

Bernie had always been “Jodi’s mom” to me until she became my friend a few years ago. We spent a lot of time together, and I grew to love her for her spunk, intelligence, sense of humor, and adventurous spirit. She was always so pretty and put together, ready to go shopping or we’d sometimes just drive around Millstadt! She loved doing that and we just drive around and talk about what we saw. I’m going to miss our Bernie; she truly was a treasure to me. Thank you to Jodi and Jan for sharing her with me. Much love to the whole family, I’m so sorry for your loss.

  • Richmond Heights
  • MO
Sue Johnson said : Guest Report Oct 28, 2023 at 9:09 AM

Jody and Jan, When meeting your mother only a short time ago, I remember her as being kind and gracious. Our thoughts are with you and your families, wishing you comfort and peace at this sad time. We are so sorry for your loss. Sue and Bob Johnson

  • Fairview Heights
  • IL
Lisa Hoffmann (nee Haas) said : Guest Report Oct 24, 2023 at 7:37 PM

Jody and Jan, My sympathies and prayers to you at this time in the loss of your Mother. I fondly remember our friendship and being at your home for all the fun things we did as kids! Your Mom was always so pleasant and welcoming to me. Prayers in your time of grief.

  • Collinsville
  • IL
Jerry R Yaekel said : Guest Report Oct 22, 2023 at 10:49 AM

So very sorry to learn of Bernice's passing. What a great Life she had, though. Our condolences to you, Jody, and your family. Jerry & Eve

  • Fredericktown
  • MO
Patty Evansco said : Guest Report Oct 22, 2023 at 10:00 AM

Bernice was a very kind person and I enjoyed talking to her. I’m glad I knew her and called her my friend.

  • Millstadt
  • Illinois
Mrs. Charles (Betty Jo) Scherrer said : Guest Report Oct 21, 2023 at 9:23 AM

Jody , Jan & Families, You all have my deepest sympathy and in my thoughts & prayers Bernie was such a sweet friend & always had a smile on her face She’s so loved and miss here at Villas of Holly Brook R I P Betty Scherrer

  • Belleville
  • Illinois

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